How to Support A Loved One with Mental Health Issues

*Note: This article mentions the topic of suicide. 

When a family member, friend, or anyone that we love is or may be struggling, it is natural to want to help. Sometimes it can seem daunting, however, as we often don’t want to make them uncomfortable or risk making things worse. Don’t let this stop you– providing support is so beneficial and important! Read on to learn more about how to support a loved one with mental health issues. 

Support in Communication

Whether you suspect or know that a person is struggling, your words make a difference! There are many ways you can communicate sensitively and intentionally. For example, consider the nature of your relationship with them. Is it an acquaintance that you have a newer or professional relationship with? You may not want to ask a bunch of questions that make them feel backed into a corner. If it is a close friend, you may want to encourage them to open up more. No matter what, treat the individual kindly, gently, and with respect (Mental Health Foundation). 

As important as our words are, listening is key. If someone is having a hard time, they often need a loving, listening ear and to know that they are not alone. When you listen, do so with genuine curiosity and don’t be eager to have ‘the right answer’- there may not always be one. Offer them space to be open and honest, and let them share as much or as little as they would like to. An important note- if the person is grieving, it may not be helpful to talk about your own grief. While it can sometimes be helpful to mention our own difficult times to someone that is struggling, let them have the floor (Mental Health Foundation).

Support in Action

Communication is important, and we communicate a lot through our actions. If you don’t know how to support in a practical sense your loved one who is or may be struggling, a good rule of thumb is to respond as if they have the flu- consider taking care of tasks that are on their plate to lessen their load, buy or make them food or treats, point them to helpful resources if appropriate (like helping them find support in a mental health counselor!), and be patient with them- they are doing their best. 

Do you know their love language? Consider what you know about them and what is most meaningful to them. Whether they respond more to words of affirmation, hugs, sitting in silence, or whatever else, lean into the type of support that they most connect with. And remember- stay calm, kind, and non-confrontational, and take care of yourself, too (Mental Health Foundation). 

Responding in Crisis

Mental health struggles can range widely in type and severity. Sometimes, we may find ourselves in a position where we fear for our loved one’s safety. If this is the case, please do not bear that weight on your shoulders. The best way to help may be calling the police or calling/texting 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.  If applicable, help your loved one make a plan for how to avoid or handle being in an elevated state when they may be in danger- who to call, how to weather the storm, etc. Being prepared for a crisis can help (National Alliance on Mental Health). 

Are you or a loved one struggling with mental health? Compass Community Health is here to help. You do not need to struggle alone- compassionate care is who we are. Reach out today by calling (740) 355-7102.  

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